Writers Workshop: Lessons Learned

It is almost mid-June and that means that Father’s Day is soon upon us.  Since my Dad passed away it is not an easy day.  Actually it is not an easy month leading up to Father’s Day what with all the commercials about what to give Dad, where to take him for breakfast/brunch/dinner and all those kiddies running up to Dad to give him the perfect handmade card or a reciprocating saw.  It’s hard to watch without a glass/bottle of wine.

Dads are supposed to impart wisdom and mine did.  Since he passed at a relatively young age though, he was unable to impart the wisdom that I desperately need right now.

How do I fix my house?

I mean, I got TONS from my Dad.  I am a perfectionist which can sometimes be misconstrued as ‘control issues’ by one’s husband.  I also inherited the ability to be a realist…again sometimes misunderstood as pessimism from loved ones.


He was REALLY good at taking care of a home.  He know how to do just about everything from wood working to plumbing.  He was an expert at caring for two and a half acres of land and used a pull start tractor for years.  I think he even built the little cart that hooked on the back of said tractor.  I am constantly reminded when I see something that needs to be done in my house that my Dad is not here to teach me how to do it.  I can probably learn on my own but that is depressing as hell.  It really is.  Here I had a master at this stuff at the ready for over 30 years but he passed away before I bought a ‘house in need of work’.  Sometimes I think that is why we have not done as much with the house.  I just hate that I know it could have been done by someone who was good at it AND loved me.  Contractors can only provide so much on an estimate.

So.  If I am going to glean some wisdom from my Dad for use in my home.  It would have to be:

“Always put a paper towel on top of your food while you are heating it up in the microwave so it doesn’t splatter all over the place.”

Dad liked a clean microwave.

  • pegbur7

    I am so sorry for the loss of your dad.  I don’t even want to imagine. My dad is 82 and I’m in my 50′s and still can’t bear the thought of him not being around one day….

  • Kerry Daley

    I’m sorry for you loss. That is a good lesson, though! It will save you time scraping food crusting off the microwave. ;-)

  • Jenny


    Greatest lesson learned EVER…I have the splatter all over my microwave too! Dad’s little lessons will always stay with you!

  • http://www.nannygoatsinpanties.com/ Margaret (nannygoats)

    My dad’s still here, and he’s a nice guy and all, but he’s not one to impart wisdom. Unless you want to know everything under the sun about World War 2. He’s an expert in that, but I’d rather know how to microwave my dinner. It’s my mother who I wish was still here. She went way too early and every day, I wish she were here for me to talk to. So I guess I can relate to your sorrow.

  • Hebba

    Sorry for your loss. Sounds like your Dad was a good man. And a wise one, too. My microwave thanks him.

  • http://snootyprimadona.blogspot.com/ Liz C.

    You were so lucky to have such a wonderful Dad! I know how hard it is not having him around, as I’m in the same boat. However, I have found Google searches to be quite handy & have learned a lot through them & from HGTV.