The other day I cried out on Facebook for advice.
I do not do that.
I had been confronted with a situation that I could do nothing about even though it was regarding something very near and dear to my heart. I raged internally at the stupidity of the person who told me the situation in which they had gotten themselves and another who was helpless to prevent the problem. I struggled then with not being judgmental then looped back to rage. I sat and looked at my hands and realized they were tied and useless…metaphorically speaking, of course.
So knowing that Facebook is usually a great place for UNwanted advice, I actually asked for some.
“Someone, anyone – please toss me a quote or saying that there are some things you cannot do anything about at all even when you would like to. I am not kidding. I am so upset about a situation that is not my own and I can do nothing about it at all. The stress from the worry is really killing me at the moment and I am trying to find a way to let it go…”
I got some very good advice. Some did not really apply to this situation but can use later. There was one piece that clicked/lightbulbed/smacked me in the forehead with its perfect simplicity.
from C. JoyBell C.
I have never in my life had something ring so true at such a perfect time.
I never let things go. I worry, I stress, I fix, I hem, I haw but I don’t let things go. For the first time though, I recognized there was not one thing I could do to change/help/fix the situation. Believe you me, I looked from every angle. When I said those words above to myself, it was as if I had been given permission to let go, hard as it was. It was just to heavy.
I did not feel guilty for letting it go as I thought I would. If I cannot change/help/fix a situation I usually feel guilty or remorseful. This time I was happy that I was able to find some peace. That is very, very new to me. It feels a little decadent. I probably need to find some balance when using that quote in life otherwise I might stop emptying the dishwasher.